Let’s talk about sex: expert insights on the most Googled questions
Sex is one of the most natural aspects of human life, yet many people still feel too embarrassed to discuss it openly.
Instead of asking their doctors or partners, thousands turn to Google every month to find answers to their most intimate questions.
But what exactly are people asking? A recent study in the United States analysed the most-searched sex-related questions, revealing a fascinating (and sometimes concerning) insight into what people are curious about but too shy to ask in person.
While the research focused on American searches the reality is that South Africans are likely asking the same questions.
From concerns about sexual health to confusion about intimacy, these topics are just as relevant here at home.
Questions like “How to have sex,” “Why am I bleeding after sex?” and “How long to wait after a yeast infection?”, topped the list.
How to have sex?
Believe it or not, this is one of the most Googled sex-related questions worldwide.
Good sex isn’t just about technique it’s about communication, consent and comfort.
There’s no “one-size-fits-all” guide. The most important thing is to talk openly with your partner about boundaries and desires. Take things slowly, and always prioritise mutual pleasure.
For many South Africans, cultural and religious norms make it hard to talk about sex. But education is key and understanding your body and your partner’s needs leads to a more fulfilling experience.
How long should I wait to have sex after a yeast infection?
Yeast infections are common, especially in warm climates like ours. But can you have sex right after treatment?
It’s best to wait 24-48 hours after completing treatment and until all symptoms are gone. Having sex too soon can cause reinfection or discomfort.
Avoid scented soaps and wear breathable cotton underwear to reduce the risk of infections.
Why am I bleeding after sex?
Bleeding after sex can be scary but it’s not always a cause for concern.
It could be due to dryness, hormonal changes, or minor irritation to the cervix.
However, if it happens regularly, it could indicate an underlying condition like cervical infections, fibroids or even early signs of cervical cancer so get it checked by a doctor.
Can you have sex while pregnant?
Pregnancy doesn’t mean the end of intimacy.
Unless your doctor says otherwise, sex during pregnancy is completely safe. However, you may need to try different positions as the pregnancy progresses to ensure comfort. Sex during pregnancy is normal and can even strengthen emotional bonds.
How to last longer in bed?
Performance anxiety is a common concern for men.
Lasting longer isn’t just about endurance it’s about understanding your body. Take breaks, focus on foreplay and practice techniques like the “stop-start” method.
But most importantly, removing the pressure to “perform” good sex is about connection, not just duration.
Had sex then got my period, am I still pregnant?
Many people worry about unplanned pregnancies making this a commonly searched question.
If you got your period after sex, you’re most likely not pregnant. However, some women experience implantation bleeding, which can be mistaken for a period. If you’re unsure, take a pregnancy test or visit a clinic.
With South Africa’s high rate of teenage pregnancies access to contraception and education is crucial. Free contraceptive options are available at public clinics use them!
What causes pain during sex?
Pain during sex is NOT normal and shouldn’t be ignored.
It can be caused by lack of arousal, infections, endometriosis or even stress. If sex is painful, stop and talk to a healthcare provider. You deserve pleasure, not pain.
Many women suffer in silence due to stigma or fear of judgment. But seeking help is a sign of strength, not shame.
These searches tell us something important: People want answers but don’t always know where to turn.
The high search volumes are a positive shift shows that people are becoming more open to learning about their bodies.
However, relying on Google alone can be risky there’s a lot of misinformation out there. We need better access to sexual health education so that people can make informed choices.
If you have questions about sex and sexual health, here are trusted resources:
✅ Marie Stopes South Africa: Offers sexual health services, including contraception and STI testing.
✅ LoveLife SA: A youth-friendly platform discussing sex, relationships, and health.
✅ Your local clinic: Government clinics provide free sexual health services, including HIV testing, pap smears, and contraceptives.
Sex is natural, normal and nothing to be ashamed of.
Instead of relying on search engines, let’s normalise talking about sex responsibly with partners, doctors, and educators. Because when we break the silence, we empower ourselves and future generations.